Not sweeping it under the rug. Removing the rug.

Can we do a re-do?

Have you ever been in a situation with your spouse where you said something the wrong way? You were in-sensitive. You could have phrased that so much better and now you are feeling the onset of heat or ice?

The world is full of places where re-do’s are not allowed. You don’t get to try again, you already screwed it up. You don’t get to re-phrase that, you already said it.  We looooonnnng for a safe place to have a re-do and guess what, marriage is that place!

When you realize that you said something wrong, insensitive or judgmental - hop on it and ask sincerely, can I please re-do that?

OR if you notice that you AND your spouse are spiraling - hit pause, recalibrate and ask if you can start over together.

Try a re-do together.

Heather and I have been able to reroute and reapproach arguments that before, used to take up a whole weekend, or ruin an entire night, and resolve them within minutes. One of our go-to’s is The Re-Do.

Now, the magic of the re-do is not that you get another chance, and it’s not an excuse for patterns of poor behavior and disrespect - the magic of the re-do is actually a chance for your spouse to shine (not you!). Because what the re-do requires is that your spouse not hold the first (poor) attempt against you. No punishing. Literally, you get to try it again. It is SO gracious and refreshing – you can’t get this anywhere else.

The Re-Do is not sweeping it under the rug. It’s removing the rug. Oh! How we long for the chance to try again.

“I messed that up so bad, I worded that so poorly, I’m sorry – can I re-do that?”

Let us know if you try this out and how it works. Send us a message through our website. We are for you!